I was extremely lucky to fall pregnant reasonably quickly, but that doesn’t mean it was easy. Here’s a light-hearted look at the things I wish somebody had told me before trying for a baby.
It might not happen straight away
This is a big one for me. I was always led to believe (back in those Biology lessons when the bananas and condoms came out) that sex without protection equalled a baby. Turns out this is not the case. At all. It can take a long time for everything to get back to normal after coming off contraception, and even when you are back to normal, it can still take a while to get pregnant.
Which brings me on to my next point…
You can only get pregnant if you have sex at certain times of the month
Nobody talks about it
Trying for a baby is such a big deal, yet nobody talks about. It still seems to be a bit of a taboo, particularly if you have been trying for a while. It can get a bit lonely and stressful, and it is a time when ideally you want your friends and family around you. Thankfully there is an incredible Trying To Conceive community online, with forums dedicated to the topic, and these can be a really helpful way of finding support from others in the same boat.
You will learn a whole new language
TTC, CD, O, DTD, CM, BFP, BFN, AF, BD
Peeing on a stick is addictive
Ovulation tests, pregnancy tests – there’s almost always a reason to pee on a stick.
The two-week wait is hell!
The two-week wait is the time between ovulation and the day Aunt Flo is due to arrive. These two weeks actually feel like 2 years. Fact.
It’s impossible not to do a bit of symptom spotting
During that two-week wait it is impossible not to read into every single twinge or ache. Sore boobs? Must be pregnant! Tired? PREGNANT! Spotting? Implantation bleeding, obviously.
STAAAAAAHP IT BRAIN!
The Green Eyed Monster comes out
It can often feel like every other person in the world is getting pregnant and it’s hard not to feel envious. It’s completely natural to feel this way but try not to let it get to you. For all know, that person may have been trying for a very long time too and they are finally getting their little miracle. Your day will come.
It’s all you can think about. It takes over your mind and your life. Peeing on a stick, temping, charting. There’s little time left for anything else!
It’s totally worth it
When you finally see those two lines, and even better, 9 months later, when you hold that baby in your arms for the first time, it’s totally worth it.